Calm communication · BIFF (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm)/JADE (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain) · Legal risk aware · UK
- Calm plan
- Also in Case Ready
Rewrite difficult messages into calm, child-focused replies
Copari coaches you through BIFF/JADE rewrites, highlights careful prompts, and keeps boundary reminders visible before you send. Built for UK co-parenting contexts.
- BIFF/JADE-aligned rewrites with tone controls
- Careful prompts to reduce escalation
- Crisis indicators and boundary warnings before you send
How it works
Three steps from a difficult message to a calmer reply
Paste or dictate
Drop in a difficult message or use voice. Copari helps you keep the audience and context in mind.
Rewrite with safeguards
BIFF/JADE rewrite with careful prompts and boundary reminders. Keep it brief and factual.
Save to your account
Keep the message with your records. Saving, history and linking to your other records stay private to your account.
What the rewrite does
Explore rewrite examples, careful prompts and boundary reminders without exposing any personal content.
Before and after
A heated draft becomes a brief, factual reply focused on the children and the next practical step.
Clarity note
Highlights speculative language and suggests a concise factual version that may be easier to review later.
Boundary reminder
Highlights wording that may be worth reviewing and prompts a neutral, child-first reply with a boundary reminder.
A worked example
From a heated draft to a calm, factual reply
Before
“You never show up on time and ruin the kids' schedule.”
After
“Pick-up was 25 minutes late today. Please confirm Thursday's time so the handover stays calm for the children.”
FAQs
Questions about calm communication
Is this UK-specific?
Yes. Copari is built for UK co-parenting, with UK wording and signposting. It is not endorsed by any court or Cafcass, and it does not replace advice from a qualified professional.
Does Copari give legal advice?
No. It helps keep communication calm and child-focused; it is not legal advice.
Can I try it before I sign up?
You can explore this explainer and the examples. Saving messages and your history stays inside your account.
Will this store my messages?
Public pages do not store your data. Saving is private to your account.
Keep your replies brief, factual and easier to review later
Explore safely, then start your trial when you’re ready.
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